off the hook or understanding

roses are red
violets are blue

earlier this week a dear friend had a horrible day at work. this bad day wasn't anything new, she is doing the best she can with the training she has received (which hasn't been much). she has taught herself many new tasks and is getting ojt (on the job training) everyday. things just continue to not work or go wrong i am positive it is not her fault. so many other people and issues effect this bad monday that happened.

i left her after work and felt horrible because their was nothing i could do. every girls loves flowers so i thought it would be nice to get her some. not just bring them into work the next day but delivery. i wanted her to feel special and appreciated. flowers are a no fail when it comes to girls.

they were delivered and beautiful as ever. she smiled in delight. i think it brightened her day.

as i left work the following day i was thinking about the event of getting the flowers and the dent they put in my wallet. a friend and i split the $$ but still they were not cheap. i thought to myself they are pretty now but in 5 days when they begin to wilt will they still be beautiful. to some they may still be beautiful and they will for any women be a symbol of care and remembrance.

i thought to myself, maybe the cost is what drives most men away from buying flowers for their loved one. i know a few men who do it often and their women love it. i know other men like my father who i have only witnessed it a few times. i have seen my mother buy flowers for herself more than he has bought them for her. it is not a big thing to them. i began to think what is so special about flowers? they die. why not get a gift that lasts, jewelry or handmade. but then i stopped my thoughts and said to myself, "katee how many times have you longed to get flowers." i can't tell you the number it is far too high. i have received them a few times and they add to the day. i remembered how special i felt on those occasions. i felt special. i felt cared about, adored, loved.

so maybe it is that guys think they are too expensive and they are. or maybe it is that they know they will die in a short time and not last like another gift they will give.

i am not saying guys are off the hook for giving flowers but i understand why they don't, i guess. there is a little more understanding from my end.

i am not going to fool you and tell you i don't want them because they are too expensive or because they will die. the way they make a girl feel is priceless and says you are loved, adored, appreciated, special, and one of my favorite people! every girl wants to be fought for and pursued ... some girls like flowers and most girls will take it anyway it comes!